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On Rape

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Updated: April 21, 2014

 

By Nick Palmisciano

We need to step up.

All of us.

The Department of Defense is now estimating that anywhere from 20-25% of all women who have served in the military are raped, and up to 30% have been sexually assaulted in some manner.  One in four of the women we served with has been raped?

Is that really acceptable to any of us?

Is that what we’re about?

Let me be clear: I know with 100% certainty that most members of the military are not rapists.  I also know that combat does not turn a man into a rapist.  Rapists, either through nature or nurture are created.  Once they are created, they never cease raping.  Even men who have been chemically castrated will continue to rape using objects.  That’s how deep the psychosis goes and these acts showcase more than anything that rape is not about sex, but rather about power.

Rapists have a similar pathology to serial killers.   They like to stalk and hunt their victims.  They enjoy the terror they bring to their victims during the act.  Most of all, though, the rapist enjoys replaying the act in his head after the fact.  He is sexually aroused by remembering the terror of his victims.  Where a serial killer lives for the terror leading up to the kill, a rapist revels in the fact that once a woman or man is raped, that terror remains with them all the days of their lives.

I also realize rape is prevalent in our society.  While the media points out there is 2-3 times more rape in the military than in the general population, when you look at similar age groups it is comparable or even better.  The military rape rate, for example, actually falls short of college campuses, where 25-30% of women admit to being raped at some point in four years.

Well since we’re the same as college, it’s not that big of a deal, right?  Rape is just something that happens, right?

Wrong.

We’re supposed to be better than that.  We represent the best the nation has to offer.  Our country places within us a significant trust – that we will represent the nation with character and win its wars.  More importantly, our sisters-in-arms trust us.

Unfortunately, in my life, I have encountered many women dear to me who have been raped.  For one reason or another, I am the person they turned to with their horror.  I cannot put into words the humiliation, guilt, and abject fear these women felt.  Candidly, despite hearing their stories and listening with tear-filled eyes, having never been raped myself, I cannot truly imagine what they survived.

I can say this, though: the foundation of our armed forces is that we can trust each other with our lives.  Hell, even when we don’t like each other, we trust that each of us can do the job.  We trust that we have each other’s backs.  That is why when a male troop commits these acts to a female troop, the crime is worse than a traditional rape.  It isn’t a college friend raping her.  It is her goddam brother.

Our sisters-in-arms trust us with their lives.  They are soldiers for Christ’s sake!  We owe it to them to look out for them.  We owe it to them to ensure we are people worthy of the uniform we put on.

Men: We need to look out for our sisters.  If you have a bad feeling about someone, look into it.  Don’t turn the other cheek.  If you think something has happened, explore it.  If you know something has happened, report it.  I realize the bonds of brotherhood, especially among combat veterans, is virtually unbreakable, but you cannot let these guys go unpunished.  This guy, who fought with you, and may be a great soldier in every other capacity, still raped your sister.  He raped your sister.  And he will rape again.  Over and over and over again.  He will never stop.  It is the defining characteristic of his life.  You cannot look at yourself in the mirror every morning knowing this is happening.  You have to do what’s right or you are not a man at all.  You have to protect our sisters-in-arms.

Women: Look out for your sisters.  Look for signs of abuse.  If you know something went down, report to every man, woman and child you can until something is done.  If someone has assaulted you, please report it.  It is not your fault.  It is the evil son-of-a-bitch that did it to you, and you should carry no guilt associated with the act.  The guilt is all his.  The evil is all his.

Please, also, police your own.  Look out for the liars.  While reports of rape have risen 4% in the last 3 years, false reports have risen 35%.  First, if you’re falsely reporting a rape, you’re a worthless human being who is accusing a man of possibly the worst act a man can commit for your own personal gain.  Second, you are doing a grave injustice to the real victims.  Every time there is a false allegation identified, you give investigators more reason to doubt victims, and make their plight even more horrific.  Shame on you.

Finally, Commanders: I don’t care if he is your best soldier who ups your company’s rating on X, Y, and Z and has 34 medals and she is the most out-of-shape worthless soldier you have ever seen, he still may have raped her.  You owe it to every soldier who has ever donned the uniform and especially to your soldier to do a complete and impartial investigation.  If you can’t, then you need to admit that and push it to a higher level.  It is your job to take care of your soldiers – all of your soldiers – not just the ones you happen to like the most.

I know most of you feel as I do.  I know that.  I know most of you find rape appalling and disgusting.  The thing is, it isn’t going away.  It only seems to be getting worse.  It is easier to say, “I’d never rape and my unit is all a bunch of good guys who would never rape anyone,” then it is to admit the truth: 1 out of 4 of the women you know in the military have been raped.  Odds are you know at least one of the rapists.

Protecting the nation has to begin with protecting the men and women to our left and right.

It just has to.

We need to do more.  We need to look out for each other.

Our sisters-in-arms deserve better.

As does our nation.

And as always, the solution lies on our shoulders.

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52 Comments

  1. Jenn_Navy

    May 16, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    Great post. Served 12 years and while I was never a victim, I believe it was because of the people I served with. The chief I could talk to and helped me deal with issues. And also the men I served with did represent the best of us.

  2. Sara

    May 16, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    Thanks….your words can make a difference and the fact you stopped to put them down might prevent future acts.

  3. Joe

    May 16, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    At the risk of ruffling some feathers, isn’t the incidence of rape near unheard of in the infantry, combat arms, and special operations? Perhaps the moral fortitude demonstrated by those who put themselves most at risk in the military precludes them from such a base act as sexual assault or rape.

    • vuombie

      May 16, 2013 at 3:09 pm

      Feathers not particularly ruffled but I think it is much more the case that those who are assaulted aren’t reporting it. Women have enough difficulties with reporting, I can’t imagine how hard it is for a man to stand up and say “I was raped by one of my brothers-in-arms.”

    • Bryan

      May 16, 2013 at 3:49 pm

      While I get what you are saying here, it also should be noted that no or a very small amount of females are in the organizations you mentioned. As a former infantryman, I can say I ever noticed this, but I would not be naive to think the problem does not exist.

    • able34bravo

      May 21, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      Or, it could be that there aren’t women in line companies yet. Once they are forced on us, that will change. Hooray for equality!

    • Matt

      April 30, 2014 at 2:52 pm

      I don’t know if this is true I was infantry and met some real dirtbags over the course of my service.

  4. Uber Pig

    May 16, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    Do you have a citation for that rape statistic? I’ve been googling around and can’t find one.

  5. Gideon

    May 16, 2013 at 2:52 pm

    Seriously, this should be read instead of the normal power point sexaul assault prevention slides that are mandatory every quarter. Its put into terms that Soldiers will actually understand and not in the usual “check the box” format.. Well said Brother, well said.

    • John

      April 22, 2014 at 6:35 pm

      I completely agree with Gideon. No reason to rewrite his excellent comment.

  6. Tim

    May 16, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Most studies of MST (Military Sexual Trauma) have focused their attention on women. As compared to men, MST does occur at higher rates in women. However, MST is also experienced by substantial proportion of men in the military.
    One large study of more than two million male veterans who had visited an outpatient veteran healthcare facility found that 31,797 reported experiencing a MST. A similar number of women (29,418) reported the experience of a MST (out of approximately 100,000 women).

    • Sara

      May 17, 2013 at 1:34 pm

      Tim, do you have the source of your stats. I would like to use this information in my upcoming training session with Senior Leaders.

    • NYJarhead

      May 21, 2013 at 2:41 pm

      I served six years in the Corps. I now work alongside an Army Soldier who’s admitted to being raped by one of his Sgt’s. I asked if he reported it and wasn’t surprised when he answered no. He was ashamed of what happened and didnt think anyone would believe him. I was caught off guard by him telling me of the rape. The look of shame on his face was heartbreaking. It’s a fucking horrible thing to happen to anyone but, as a man I can’t imagine how you you’d go about bringing it to the attention of your superiors.

  7. Greg Kelly

    May 16, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    Thank you for the great article. Just the other day Sgt. Harry Shaw 82nd Airborne Div., Grenada (RET) posted an Art and History perspective on Military and Rape that may prove to be of interest as further reading: To Hear the Lamentation of Their Women… [Historian-Poet Harry Shaw]http://k2globalcommunicationsllc.wordpress.com/2013/05/14/to-hear-the-lamentation-of-their-women-historian-poet-harry-shaw/

  8. Daniel Turissini

    May 16, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    I have served in the Army for 16 years. I have never seen a rape case in any unit that I’ve served in during all that time. Yes I’m aware that it happens, but I have an extremely difficult time believing that the statistics quoted in this story story are legit.

    • Tyler

      May 18, 2013 at 12:10 pm

      Daniel, I am genuinely happy that you have almost made it through an entire career without seeing a rape case. Frankly, I am shocked that you have, though. I have been in the Army 13 years now, only the last five as a JAG. I have served with multiple Brigades in those five years as a trial counsel or supervising one and I can tell you that sexual assault occurs ALL THE TIME. There has never been a moment where I have not had a sex. assault case on-going if not multiple cases. I have seen dozens of them. The real problem is the prevelance of young Soldiers being left to their vices in the barracks and with a ton of alcohol. What I think is ridiculous is that this has been going on for decades and yet we still turn a blind eye towards how we get off work and leave 19 year old kids alone to take care of themselves. How many years does it take to prove that training alone will never solve this problem?

    • Alphadawg0321

      May 21, 2013 at 9:30 am

      19 years and 6 different units and i’ve never had a rape case in a unit. I too have a hard time believing these statitics.

    • Dave Creedy

      June 7, 2013 at 11:03 am

      10 years and 4 duty stations, and I can only know of 2 cases, both of which proved to be false. I believe that it happens, just I can’t believe that of the 1000 or so females that I know and work with, 250+ were raped.
      I really wish I could see this study that every article quotes these statistics from.

  9. Haas

    May 17, 2013 at 12:35 am

    I beg of you not to take this the wrong way, but it must be said. I have personally witnesses soldiers using the rape card as a weapon, and even as revenge when a relationship with a senior or married soldier “although unprofessional from the beginning” goes south. Its almost impossible to prove your innocence when your wrongly accused. and I hear horror stories from the women themselves sometimes about this abuse. How much of that do you think is included in these statistics?

    • CPT(P) D. Johnson

      May 21, 2013 at 1:16 pm

      As a former commander of several units, I have seen this as well…

  10. 1ID 1MP CHIC

    May 17, 2013 at 9:52 am

    In my five years, in an MP unit, there were seven that I knew of. One court martial for one SGT obtained closure for five of his victims, and jail time for him. When two of his victims were raped again by another soldier in the same platoon a year later, he received peer adjudicated discipline on the next field problem, and that resulted in broken bones. Report ALL incidents…keep copies because you will need proof if and when you seek help from the VA for the terrible scars rape leaves. BTW, I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor of rape.

  11. PhillyandBCEagles

    May 18, 2013 at 1:33 am

    I’d also like to add for the women (and I try and bring this up every time we have mandatory sexual harassment training, ass chewings be damned)–fucking be smart.

    There is no excuse for rape. None. Nothing you do gives anyone an excuse to have sex with you without your consent. But fucking be smart and take steps to minimize the risk.

    I look at it this way: I’m fully within my rights to purchase a brand-new BMW, take it to Murchison Road, park it on the street with the windows down, doors unlocked, keys in the ignition, and disappear for 3 or 4 hours. Anyone who steals my car is a thief and should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. But that doesn’t mean it’s a good fucking idea for me to do that in the first place.

    • Sharon

      May 19, 2013 at 1:25 am

      What are you proposing women should do to prevent people from raping them? Obviously if it’s rape, they didn’t ask for it. I bet rape occurs even when a women tries to look as ugly as possible, flatten her breasts, keep covered. People should be free to be themselves and have the right to be SAFE, no matter how they look like or how they want to feel. There is something wrong with people’s morality when they rape, not the way a woman looks.

      • Common Sense

        May 19, 2013 at 6:06 pm

        While I agree that sexual assault is always wrong- there are still plenty of women AND men who put themselves in dangerous situations for no reason. Don’t show up to a party where you don’t know anyone and get blackout drunk! This happens all the time. This doesn’t make the victim at fault- but it does make them an easy target.

      • Trish

        May 21, 2013 at 11:24 am

        Sharon, I do not think that Philly is saying she needs to be ugly as possible, we should be able to dress and act the way we want. Somethings that could help is: go out in groups, set ground rules if she is going to go out on a date. Don’t go to the guy’s room if he forgot something. And don’t invite him to yours unless you want to have sex. Don’t drink to access, and don’t leave your friends by themsleves, if you’ve gone out in with a group of women, leave with a group of women. There are things to do if we want to be safe, be smart and don’t get falling down drunk.

  12. Sgt Mac

    May 20, 2013 at 7:58 am

    As a NCO my troops are my top priority..as a MP upholding the rules and regulations is my chosen path. According to UCMJ rape is punishable by death. If you chose to lower yourself to base animal level you should face a fitting end. I have a female soldier on my team and i would lay down my life for her just as quick as I woud for my male troop. We are a family and if you choose to harm my family I will do everything in my power to see you pay the highest price.

  13. Dr. Smoker

    May 21, 2013 at 2:17 am

    I like that you are a man standing up for women.
    We need more men like you.
    You are articulated a touchy subject many light-hearted people wish to stay silent about.

  14. dgh

    May 21, 2013 at 9:36 am

    I am really surprised that there are not more women in arms killing the men who assault them.

  15. SGT JASON

    May 21, 2013 at 10:06 am

    In my 10 years of service I personally never seen a rape case,but as an NCO we were schooled on it. My Guys were my top priority! I went toe to toe with my 1st SGT and Cmdr,on several occasions.We have to take care of the guys and gals ,or they will not take care of you in the field! There is no room for rape in society and especially in the Military! We are are all Brothers and Sisters in arms. It’s up to the CO’s and NCO’s to know what is going on in their unit, and fix it!

  16. William

    May 21, 2013 at 11:39 am

    Rape is a thorny issue. False reports and victims fearing to report cloud the issue. Sexual assault being used to describe even trivial offenses also changes the numbers.
    We also need to remember presumption of innocence. I think accusations should be automatically referred to NCIS/CID/et alia. Take it outside the command, get people who don’t know them investigating, so it can be as impartial as possible.
    The navy recently started using the best rape video I’ve seen so far, but discussion was stifled. The victim spent the night in a hotel room full of drunken men, and apparently it’s offensive to point out that she would not have been raped if she’d said goodnight and gotten a different room or gone back to the barracks. That tells me we need to remind people political correctness is wrong and stupid, and spend a bit more time training junior servicemembers about staying out of bad situations. A little forethought can prevent some incidents.

  17. Lance H

    May 21, 2013 at 2:05 pm

    The problem is that we should not have sisters in arms in my opinion. Let the flames begin.

    We introduce these issues that impact combat readiness by laying it at the altar of PC social justice and forcing that which is not equal by biological design into the lie of equality. The price for this folly is paid in blood.

  18. Common Sense

    May 21, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    As a mom, this is the advice I’ve given my young adult children:

    1) Don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation. Don’t walk across campus alone, drunk, at 3am.
    2) Always use the buddy system so that you aren’t the guy hanging in a canyon having to cut his arm off to save his life. You won’t be a hero, just a Darwin Award wannabe.
    3) As men, don’t put yourself in a position where you can be unjustly accused. My father always refused to be alone in a room with a female co-worker if the door was closed.
    4) Women, don’t drink so much that you lose control of yourself. Regrets the next day is NOT rape. Don’t ruin some guy’s life because you’re embarrassed about your behavior. Be a lady at all times.
    5) Men, don’t drink so much that you lose control of yourself. One night of sex is not worth destroying the rest of your life.
    6) Learn self-defense and use it if you need to. Get your CCW and carry wherever you can.

    • Common Sense

      May 21, 2013 at 10:45 pm

      YOU HIJACKED MY NAME!!!!

      Regardless of that fact, I agree with your comments

  19. EngineerChick

    May 21, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    As I read through these comments my frustration is increasing with a common theme… Don’t assume that these rapes and assaults are all occurring because of too much alcohol. My situation occurred during an FTX when a fellow soldier decided to take advantage of a secluded patrol in the woods. Idiot forgot that I was carrying the same weapon (M16, yes, I’m dating myself) as he was, and that I had been trained in the same hand-to-hand combat techniques, so a well placed butt stroke to the groin stopped his assault before it became rape, but his intent was clear. I didn’t “have my guard up” or any other cliche’ phrase I’ve read in the comments above because I was on a training exercise with fellow soldiers, not in a night club, so that crap wasn’t even on my radar. I don’t think it was or should be out of line to trust my brothers- and sisters-in-arms to behave with honor, especially towards our fellow soldiers. I only hope that the prevailing winds of command have changed since when I was on active duty – when I reported this incident, I was immediately the outcast, the pariah. Even my company commander told me I could have and should have handled it “more professionally” by just ignoring that it ever happened. I very much hope that has changed.

    • John

      April 22, 2014 at 6:48 pm

      I have some sympathy with the comments that are making you angry. I’ve seen a guys career/life destroyed on a baseless rape charge that was proven false. He was guilty until proven innocent.

      However your story infuriates me. I admire you immensely for butt-stroking that loser in the groin. That is exactly what you should have done and you should have received an AAM for it. He should have been sent on a quick trip to Army jail.

      If it makes you feel any better, things have changed. I’m sure there is a bad apple commander here and there, but Army wide, reporting of sexual assault is taken very seriously now.

  20. Jinger

    May 21, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    The latest report I saw came from Elaine Donnelly’s site, and she reported the statistics put out by DOD. 14 percent of men were raped last year. Most were done by other men, but I don’t remember seeing a breakdown by combat/non combat. It is a serious problem, and political correctness is a huge cause.

    I served. I was US Army. Although I believe there is a place for women in the military because there are certain jobs we do better. I do not believe that combat is one of them. I also believe it is time to stop with the political correctness. The military is not there to accommodate anyone. It is to win wars.

    What they are not saying about the issue of women in combat units is that these women will be assigned whether they want to go or not. It’s not about volunteering. This is a far more dangerous trend because women who are not physically capable of doing the job will be sent.

    Men and women are equal, but we are different in many ways physiologically and in our brains, and if you want to put the best military on the battlefield possible, then remember the primary objective: win wars and select your military to do that. Public policy needs to be made on intellect, facts, and common sense, not emotion.

    It’s well past time to clean up this mess. Our troops are discouraged, and they’re being bombarded with silly social experiments that will not work and only hurt the readiness of the military. No wonder rape has skyrocketed. It’s time to put a stop to this. Punish the guilty. There’s no place for rapists in the military, and there’s no place for those who make false reports, and there’s no place for disinfranchised cry babies (think Bradley Manning) who do nothing more than serve an agenda.

    • John

      April 22, 2014 at 6:49 pm

      Absolutely amazing comment. Thank you!

  21. Murphy

    May 22, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    Wow. So many thoughts.
    I have a friend who was at Hood, and was sexually assaulted more than once.
    The first time it was “Well, you shouldn’t have done X, Y, or Z.” Form her chain of command, no less.
    So she wised up, and that fast. She told her buddies (and demonstrated that there was no way she wanted anything to do with the guy. Long story), and the guy had a bit of an accident on FTX. M1A1 Abrams are finicky beasts, I am told…
    The second time, it was a straight attack. She made it to the hallway, called for help, and the guy got a quick introduction to the CID/JAG end of the service.
    The problem is that for some reason, these 2 former soldiers thought it was acceptable to try to f$ck a fellow soldier cos they wanted to. I am left so very confused that people think this way.
    On punishment, my mother worked at the state funny farm with violent sex offenders for 20 years. 15 of those years are well within my memory, and forever ingrained. I find that I must agree with Nick in no uncertain terms. These beasts will offend over and over and fucking over. I have spoken with many more professionals than my mum on this one, and my first degree was in Psychology.
    Put Them Down.
    In many cases you are doing them a service. Well over half of the sex offenders locked up refuse to be let out because they know they will offend again. In the remaining cases, you do society a service.
    But I really feel that the appropriate step to take is to follow the letter of the UCMJ. It is there as a serviceman’s guiding document, and it is the Law, the one thing you must uphold to be righteous.
    You don’t shoot POW’s, you salute the rank, and you get put to death for rape.
    Let the UCMJ be obeyed AND enforced.
    Hell, start a campaign. “Stop rape, Enforce the UCMJ.”
    I am going to put that up in the ready room, I think…

  22. Fred Wingo

    August 10, 2013 at 3:52 pm

    Nick,
    I am curious to hear your thoughts on the Senate playing with the idea of taking the adjudication of sex crimes away from the commander. The majority of Captians I speak to about this issue wish they were not responsible for these investigations or punishment. However the investigation by the commander should only take place after a thorough, CID investigation which often finds a lack of evidence so the commander is forced to do a 15-6 investigation to “find something to punish”. It is almost like a cacth 22. CID and the JAG love to prosecute but they are limited by the rules of evidence which leaves the punishment to the commander who often is punishing just to punish.

  23. GM

    April 21, 2014 at 1:12 pm

    I truly believe this statistic is correct… and no I didn’t do the research (I might later though). I believe that it is true because this was probably done as a blind survey. Women more than likely admitted to things that happened but never reported them. That, I truly believe because I was one of those that would not report the assaults and sexual harassment (as well as couple of close calls) I had while I served. I knew that I couldn’t. I was in a position that if I did, no one would want to work with me…ever. I would be cast off and distrusted no matter the validity. I worked very hard to earn the trust of my brothers, even though some of them took advantage of it, and I didn’t want to see what I had go away. I agree with some of the women on here. The best thing we can do as women is to try and be smart about what we get ourselves into. I might’ve learned it a little too late but it did help me later on. Thanks Nick for writing about this. And even though I had some bad experiences, I can also say that there are some men I served with who are absolutely my brothers… I trust them with my life as they trust me with theirs. We earned each other’s trust and it truly is awful that some can not conceive how horrible it is to violate that trust.

  24. trim

    April 21, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    great article. You make some great points. I read with interest that one in four women in the military are sexually assaulted. I know the number in society is 1 in 3, so we are doing better than that. Also, a very important point, is that the military has not addressed the huge number of gay rapes in the military. I know they reported last year that over 50 percent of the sexual assaults were man on man. Funny how that gets no Press.

  25. Captain obvious

    April 21, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    I worked on a lot of rape cases as a civilian cop. I can tell you that maybe one out of ten was legit. The rest were chicks that got caught by boyfriends or parents or spouses and claimed rape to cover their deeds. Or, they regretted their choice to bone and claimed rape, or even better got knocked up and it was embarrassing so they claimed rape. They had no trouble wrecking someone’s life in the process. I imagine it’s very similar in every branch of service, chicks are chicks uniform or not.

    You have to treat all the cases the same just in case it was that one out of ten where it was legit so they all get included in the stats. Woman use it for sympathy and cover. It’s a shame because they are fucking it up for the ones who legitimately got raped. Most people I know roll their eyes whenever some chick says she was raped. Sad, but that’s what happens when a gender cries wolf…..

  26. drew32

    April 21, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    Very informative article. This does effect men, women, and their families.

    Here is a good movie about MSA: http://invisiblewarmovie.com/

    Here is the link to help support the victims: http://www.notinvisible.org/

  27. Mike C

    April 21, 2014 at 3:48 pm

    Nick I have also been the “shoulder to learn on” and it is good to show that it’s not just ‘effeminate’ men who see this as a problem. Glad you are vocal about this issue for the right reasons.

  28. seans

    April 21, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    I think one of the biggest misconceptions is what qualifies a rape, most people who think rape, think of somebody overpowering someone, threatening ect. But there is much more than that. I have worked with women who were raped, and when I asked how it happened, the answer I often get is that they lock up in fear cause they get into a situation that they are afraid of, and are too afraid to even say “no, I don’t want to have sex.”

  29. Jinger Brinkley

    April 21, 2014 at 8:01 pm

    Great Job – Nick. Been wondering when you guys would weigh in on this. For anyone reading this who is in the ranks – Please keep https://www.safehelpline.org/ in mind when talking to your fellow Service Members.

    This helpline is for all branches and allows a victim to get help, report… whatever they need. It is a great and immediate option.

  30. 1SG Allen

    April 22, 2014 at 12:34 pm

    Great article! Our SARC is a CSM that I know well and when having a discussion about the statistics that are revealed to the Brass, one factor is involved with close to 95% of these rapes…alcohol. I read your article almost 3 times and heard no mention of it. If we as an Army are truly serious about the prevention of this heinous crime, this betrayal of trust, then we must analyze the facts. All of these efforts are fruitless if we don’t attack the one factor that is in place in almost every case. Heavy drinking, leads to poor judgement and in turn leads to bad decisions. Nothing will change, I repeat nothing will change unless a true effort is made by addressing this issue. I am not trying to stir the pot, but these are the facts taken from the incident reports from the field and reported to the brass.

  31. Travis

    April 22, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    Rape is terrible and wrong. With that said, probably five percent or less of this thirty percent was actuall rape. The majority of rape in today’s world is casual sex between two consenting adults, and the woman simply screams rape later for one of a plethora of scandalous reasons.

  32. tru-jdm

    April 24, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Couple of points:
    Background: my wife is a licensed counselor, and we’ve both had a lot of the same clases. Yes, 1 in 4 women that you meet have been sexually assaulted or raped. 1 in SEVEN men have had the same thing. Actual statistics on reporting? Less than ten percent, due to the fear of ostracism, not seeing the perpetrators punished, etc.
    I’ve seen military rape victims; I’ve also seen military fakers who use it to punish men they don’t like. Merely based on anecdotal evidence, the numbers are slightly less for women I the military, but here’s the catch: if someone has been raped or abused previously, their chances of it happening again increases tremendously. It’s like rapists can smell a victim. Unfortunately, our particular style of service tends to attract those who have these tendencies. If you were in command and NEVER saw a legitimate rape case, then I would question the effectiveness of your command in providing support to their soldiers.
    It’s real. It’s a problem. And unfortunately, it’s not going away. On the other side, guys: DONT BE STUPID. don’t be alone with a female, don’t get drunk at a party and have sex w/another drunken dum dum, and don’t put yourself in a situation where some crazy Chica can ruin your career.
    Common sense, people. You’d think it would be a military style death by PowerPoint class… But people don’t have it.
    And yes, I agree: death penalty for true rapists or sexual assaulters. But girls, BE SMART. I tell my female soldiers basically the same thing: don’t be stupid, don’t put yourself in a bad situation, and when confronted, attack.
    Sheesh, if you walk down east St Louis wearing a dress made of $100 bills at 3 am, don’t be surprised when you get robbed.

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